Sex Position of the Week: The Butterfly Position
The Romantic Favourite That Combines Comfort, Connection & Incredible Pleasure
Looking to add something new to your bedroom routine without needing the flexibility of a gymnast? Say hello to The Butterfly sex position.
Elegant, intimate and surprisingly versatile, the Butterfly is a fantastic position for couples who want to enjoy deeper sensations, better eye contact and plenty of opportunities to incorporate their favourite sex toys.
Whether you've been together for ten years or you're still in the exciting honeymoon phase, trying new sex positions is a brilliant way to keep intimacy fun, playful and exciting. That's exactly why we've launched our Sex Position of the Week series—to help you discover new ways to connect, communicate and explore pleasure together.
This week, we're taking a closer look at one of our favourites...
What Is the Butterfly Sex Position?
The Butterfly is a face-to-face position where the receiving partner lies comfortably on the edge of a bed, sofa or sturdy surface while the penetrating partner stands or kneels in front.
Because the hips naturally sit slightly higher, this position creates a unique angle that many couples find both comfortable and incredibly pleasurable.
One of the biggest reasons couples love the Butterfly is that it feels adventurous without being overly complicated. Unlike some more athletic positions, it's accessible for most people while still offering something refreshingly different from everyday favourites like Missionary or Doggy Style.
It's a wonderful balance of intimacy, comfort and excitement.
Why Couples Love the Butterfly Position
There are plenty of reasons why the Butterfly has become a favourite for couples around the world.
Face-to-Face Intimacy
Eye contact, smiling, kissing and holding hands all come naturally in this position. Sometimes it's these little moments that make sex feel even more connected.
Comfortable for Longer Sessions
Because one partner is fully supported by the bed, there's less strain on the body compared to many standing or squatting positions.
Fantastic Angles
The raised hips naturally create an angle that many people find enhances internal stimulation, while also leaving plenty of room for external pleasure.
Perfect for Adding Toys
Unlike some positions where your hands are occupied, the Butterfly leaves plenty of opportunities to introduce vibrators, couples' toys and lubricant into the experience.
Easy to Adapt
Small adjustments using cushions or changing leg positions can completely transform the sensations, making it suitable for many different body shapes and flexibility levels.
How to Try the Butterfly Comfortably
The best part about the Butterfly is that it doesn't require any advanced flexibility or strength.
A few simple adjustments can make it even more enjoyable.
- Choose a bed or sturdy surface that's around hip height.
- Sit on the edge before lying back comfortably.
- Allow your hips to rest naturally near the edge.
- Add a pillow beneath your hips if you'd like to experiment with different angles.
-Take your time finding a rhythm that feels good for both of you.
Remember, there's no "perfect" version of any sex position. Small movements and adjustments often make the biggest difference.
Tips for Different Body Types
Every body deserves pleasure, and one of the things we love most about the Butterfly is how adaptable it is.
For Curvier Couples
A wider leg position or placing cushions under the hips can make movement feel more natural and comfortable.
If You're Less Flexible
There's absolutely no need to force your legs into uncomfortable positions. Keep knees bent naturally and allow your body to relax.
Different Heights
If there's a significant height difference, simply add cushions or adjust the height of the bed to help everything line up comfortably.
Take Your Time
The Butterfly isn't about rushing. Slow movements often create the most satisfying sensations.
How to Make the Butterfly Position Even More Intimate
Sometimes it's the little things that create the biggest sparks.
Try:
- Maintaining eye contact.
- Sharing compliments.
- Kissing between movements.
- Holding hands.
- Laughing together if something doesn't quite go to plan.
Great sex isn't about perfection—it's about connection.
When couples communicate openly and stay playful, trying something new becomes exciting instead of intimidating.
Common Mistakes to Avoid
Going Too Fast
One of the biggest advantages of the Butterfly is the unique angle. Slowing down allows you both to appreciate the sensations.
Forgetting Lubricant
A good quality lubricant helps movements feel smoother and more comfortable while enhancing pleasure.
Ignoring Comfort
If something doesn't feel right, adjust.
Changing the angle slightly or adding a pillow can completely transform the experience.
Comparing Yourself
Every couple experiences positions differently.
What works brilliantly for one couple might need tweaking for another—and that's perfectly normal.
The Best Lubricant for the Butterfly Position
A quality lubricant can make almost every position feel more enjoyable.
For the Butterfly, a water-based lubricant is an excellent choice because it's:
- Compatible with silicone sex toys
- Condom friendly
- Easy to clean
- Suitable for sensitive skin
- Smooth without feeling sticky
Our Nirobi Water-Based Lubricant was designed with comfort in mind. It's pH balanced, body-friendly and perfect for helping everything glide effortlessly while keeping the focus on pleasure rather than friction.
The Best Sex Toys for the Butterfly Position
One of the reasons we love the Butterfly so much is because it's incredibly toy-friendly.
Bullet Vibrator
A compact bullet vibrator is perfect for adding external stimulation without interrupting the natural rhythm of the position.
Small, discreet and powerful, it's an easy addition that many couples enjoy.
Rabbit Vibrator
Exploring the Butterfly solo before trying it together can help you discover which angles feel best.
Our Nirobi Rabbit Vibrator is ideal for exploring internal and external stimulation simultaneously.
Butterfly Position Variations to Try
Once you've mastered the basics, why not experiment?
Pillow Butterfly
Place one or two cushions beneath the hips to alter the angle and discover new sensations.
Bent Knee Butterfly
Keeping knees slightly bent can reduce pressure on the hips and feel more comfortable for longer sessions.
Close Embrace Butterfly
Wrap your arms around each other throughout to maximise intimacy and body contact.
Slow Butterfly
Instead of focusing on speed, slow everything down and enjoy grinding movements and prolonged closeness.
Sometimes slowing down creates the most memorable experiences.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is the Butterfly a good position for beginners?
Yes. It's one of the easier adventurous positions to try because most of the body is fully supported.
Is the Butterfly comfortable?
Most couples find it surprisingly comfortable, especially when using pillows for extra support.
Do we need to be flexible?
Not at all.
The Butterfly works well because it can easily be adapted to suit different body types and mobility levels.
Which sex toy works best with the Butterfly?
A bullet vibrator is one of our favourite choices thanks to its compact size and versatility. Couples who enjoy shared stimulation may also love a vibrating cock ring.
Should we use lubricant?
Absolutely.
Adding lubricant helps movements feel smoother and more comfortable while allowing you to relax and enjoy the experience.
The Butterfly proves that you don't need complicated positions to create unforgettable moments together.
It's intimate, comfortable, beginner-friendly and incredibly versatile, making it an excellent choice whether you're looking to spice things up or simply reconnect with your partner.
Remember, trying new positions isn't about performing—it's about discovering what makes you both feel good, communicating openly and enjoying the journey together.
So why not make this week's challenge the Butterfly?
Take your time, keep it playful, and don't be afraid to experiment.
After all, the best kind of chemistry is the one you create together.
Shop the Perfect Nirobi Products for the Butterfly Position
If you're planning to give the Butterfly a try, these Nirobi favourites pair perfectly with this week's featured position:
Nirobi Water-Based Lubricant – pH balanced, body-friendly, toy-safe and designed for silky-smooth comfort.
Nirobi Bullet Vibrator – Compact, powerful and ideal for adding external stimulation.
Nirobi Rabbit Vibrator – A brilliant choice for solo exploration or discovering your favourite angles before trying them together.
